While I am all about “the customer is always right,” I do have one thing that I take issue with. I emphatically try to discourage my clients from expecting that I will be predicting their future. Yes, it’s true that I am blessed with intuitive guidance. And, yes, I do have some very dear colleagues who specialize in “predictive readings.” But I don’t. I make this choice for a number of reasons.
First, I honestly don’t believe that “the future” exists. Wait! I’m not saying there is nothing to live for or that existence is just a meaningless, empty abyss or anything! I’m just saying that there is not some immutable destination called “the future,” that we are all just helplessly riding towards.
For instance, what if I was to tell someone that, yes, she is going to sail through her interview and get the job? Can you see how that could adversely affect the actual outcome? She might just waltz in with beer stains on her tank top, oozing an attitude of “Here I am; when do I start?”
Unless you believe that the interviewer is a mere puppet acting out The Script of Fate, it’s pretty doubtful she is going to get hired.
Other than our mortality, we can change just about anything. I just can’t buy that we are stuck on some conveyor belt of time, heading into one fated event after another. Instead, I believe that, whether we realize it or not, we are creating an eternal Now, all the time. And the Tarot is an elegant, time-honored tool that can clear and sharpen the focus as we do.
So when we consider how to use the Tarot and how to ask good questions, my approach is to encourage questions that bring us clarity and understanding about the underlying relationships, perspectives, assumptions, and choices that are currently at work in our lives. The better we can see those, the better we can anticipate and shape the experiences that we actually want.
Thus, I think that the number one ingredient for formulating effective questions is to frame them in a way that assumes our own full responsibility and participation.
Bearing that in mind, here are some questions similar to many that I get asked:
* Should I take the promotion, or should I stay where I am?
* If I change majors, will it be a better career path?
* When should I put my house on the market?
* If I go back to my wife, will she be faithful?
* Should we start a family now, or wait?
So let’s have some fun! Here’s your challenge!
Thinking over each question, which one(s), if any, do you think demonstrate that the questioner is taking full responsibility for the situation? Why or why not?
Bonus points: How might you re-word any you think might have a problem?
Email me (address is in the left column) your answers! I will randomly choose from the best correct responses and announce the winner (who will receive a gift from me) next month!
Also next month, I'll have some additional tips for you!
