In the past several months, I’ve offered you a number of tips for finding a good reader, whether it is an empath or psychic, a Tarotist, or astrologer. In fact, some of the ideas I’ve outlined can apply to finding other kinds of service providers – from acupuncturists to web designers.This month, though, I am going to focus specifically on how to get the most from a reading or intuitive consultation – whether it is a past life reading, Tarot, astrology, or many of the other modalities that may interest you.
First, I can tell you from my own experience how to be the worst client ever, because I have been! Ironically, the first time I ever received a professional reading, I was exactly the kind of client that I now dread the most! Talk about some kind of karmic payback!
I still have the cassette tape of it, and now, almost thirty years later, it is pretty funny to hear my trembling, terrified voice. At the time, I was on the edge of my seat, ready to bolt for the door. I refused to say a word, so as not to tip off the psychic, or give away any information. I mumbled “yes” and “no,” and very little else.
Fortunately, she was incredibly gifted (my city’s police department often used her services for solving crimes). A veteran of many, many years of practice, she was calm, matter-of-fact, and completely unfazed by my discomfort. She laid bare my whole life in less than fifty minutes.
In retrospect, those fifty minutes were pivotal for me. But I often think of what a treasure that reading could have been, if I’d had half an idea of how to make the most of it. Thankfully, I’ve learned a lot since then!
Here are some tips to help you not repeat my mistakes:
* First, try to calm yourself and open your mind and heart. It may seem like a no-brainer, but give yourself plenty of time to get to your appointment. Arriving late, stressed-out, and preoccupied with traffic problems and so forth, is no fun for you, or your reader. And please! Turn your cell completely off.
* Also, while it’s perfectly normal to be a little nervous, especially if this is your first meeting with this particular reader, use your favorite techniques for centering and quieting yourself.
* Try not to be as suspicious and scared as I was; nor should you be gullible, either. But if you will be open and receptive, it is not only more enjoyable for you, it makes your reader’s job much easier.
* Allow your reader to proceed in the ways they prefer. We readers have lots of different styles and giving us a chance to work with you in the way that feels comfortable is going to give you the best results.
For instance, some readers channel information, or else they simply hate to be interrupted, and need to have their focus absolute. Others, like myself, are more comfortable dialoguing with you, and you will find the session more conversational.
* Similarly, some readers may feel that it might "taint" the reading in some way if you tell them what your questions and concerns are.
I respectfully, but strongly, disagree with this approach, feeling instead that it wastes your time and money to discuss matters that may be only peripheral to what is most important to you.
As I tell my clients, you would not go to the doctor with the expectation that, if she’s "any good," she should be able to know what’s wrong with you, without you telling her. Yes, she might find something else wrong you didn't know about, but what about the concern that sent you there in the first place?
The truth is, the more thought you give to your questions, the better the use of your time and your money. And the more clear and direct the answers will be.
Next Month: I'll show you how to ask for the answers you really need, with details that are specific, clear, and that you can put to use right away!
